Monday, January 23, 2012

If the road was paved with good intentions.............

I forget the rest of it but surely I could walk around the world by now.  So much for my daily doodle post.  This year just didn't get off to the greatest start.  My sister was admitted to the hospital with what, we didn't know.  Since she is 78 we had all kinds of fears.  As it turned out it was an intestinal flu bug that left her severely dehydrated.  She spent 3 night in the hospital, but by the second day her daughter got sick and had to leave the hospital.  The following day my daughter and I came down with it.   It quickly made it's way thru 12 family members in less then a week and a half.

My sister was finally able to go home but to increased home care till the family can get her into a senior care facility.  It's that next step we knew was coming.   She has severe osteoporosis and suffers from Alzheimer's.   It's sad to see how her body is changing, she is so frail and unsteady.   But she really lights up when she has visitors,  she hasn't lost her social skills.  

She's my big sister,  she was always there for me growing up and into adulthood.  We became even closer in our adult years.   We use to go on a trips together during hunting season when the guys were gone.  We started with short trips to the beach then we ventured to Seattle and Vancouver BC.  Then the trip to Edmonton Mall in Alberta Canada.  Four whole days doing what we loved the most, shopping.  We never left the mall the whole time we were there, we even stayed in a hotel inside the mall.   Pure paradise.

She was with me when I had my first flat tire, together we got it changed.  She sat on the curb reading the manual and I did the dirty work.  We leaned to pump gas ourselves together.  She was the left hand I was the right.  Together we could do anything.  But we were especially good at shopping.

During one trip while visiting my daughter in Virginia we got to go to Washington DC for a whirl wind tour.  We walked from one end of the mall to the other in one day.  In and out of museums, botanical gardens, the capitol, Washington monument and lastly when we came to the steps of  Lincoln memorial,  all we could do was stand there looking up at the Lincoln, we knew we couldn't walk another step let alone climb the stairs.  That is the one and only time I ever saw my sister tire from walking.

If you have a sister you know where I'm coming from.  There is this special bond between sisters, it's really hard to explain.   She's been my friend, my confidant, we were never play mates till we grew up because she was much older then me  but we learned to "play" shopping, traveling, dinners out with chocolate martinis, adult play.

The roles are changing, her daughter is now the mother, I'm a care giver and distraction.  One thing that has changed, she lets me get away with bossing her.  She'll do what I tell her to do and pretty well accepts it.  She's a little stubborn and gives her kids a hard time,  it's so hard to let go of being the parent.

I'm sorry for rattling on for so long, maybe you can relate to where I'm at right now.  I'm slowly loosing my bestest friend ever and the last of my siblings.

Thanks for visiting.




DebC said...

I can relate.
Not exactly.
And not with my sister.
But...still...I can relate.
You are in (what are the best words to use?)...
you are in murky waters
with occasional shining spots of joy.

You and your sister are added to my prayers.

Kellys Art Journaling/ Sharing The Journey said...

I think it is wonderful the lovely memories you share with your sister... it must be very difficult to see her slowly drifting away with Alzeimers and Osteo. I know a few people who have had to deal with that illness.
One thing that popped out at me in your story was the way I felt when I was 14 years old and I lost my 17 year old Sister, she didn't die or anything, she got pregnant. She went from being my best friend to being a mother and no longer had time for me. What a transition that was for me, I sunk into such a state of depression. Now that we are all older we have become much closer but not like it was when I was 14.
I pray the Lord will give you peace and comfort during this difficult time.
Hugs and blessings

Janet said...

I'm so sorry to read about your sister's failing health. I don't have any siblings so I guess I can't really relate but I do know what it's like to lose someone you love. Enjoy the moments you have with your sister and keep those memories close to your heart. I'll keep you both in my thoughts.

Judy Hartman said...

I felt so bad reading this, Cyndee.
I'm sure you must be a source of strength and delight for your sister, but it is very hard on your end to see her declining. My heart goes out to you.
I too have an older sister, but our relationship is a bit different, although she too is in poor health. I do what I can for her, but she does not take care of herself and is alone. Very frustrating.
I hope that your sister finds peace being in a senior facility where she can get the best care possible.
Hugs to you.

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